I was the outcast in my family.

The “black sheep.”

Often viewed as the family outcast, the black sheep is typically perceived as different or unusual.

The family usually believes the black sheep is to blame for their isolation. While it’s true that the black sheep may sometimes be seen as “odd” by general standards, my label came from my intuitive and empathetic ability to see into people’s souls.

My stepmother, however, dismissed this as a sign of mental illness. It’s uncommon for someone labeled as a black sheep to have a mental disorder.

In truth, many black sheep are kind-hearted individuals with much to offer their families and the world. Often, they are among the most talented and insightful, sometimes the most creative, or […]

Where I am today is the outcome of my choices—whether five years ago, fifteen years ago, or even this morning. We are responsible for how our lives have unfolded and play a crucial part in shaping our future. While we’re constantly making decisions, we don’t always fully grasp their long-term impact.

I know I certainly didn’t when I was younger. The first step is clearly defining the kind of life you want.

My intention was to have a calm, comfortable, happy, simple, and uncomplicated life.

Before making any decisions, it’s essential to ask yourself, “Will this action bring me closer to the life I envision or push me further away from it?”

I didn’t start consciously asking myself these questions until I was in […]

I was on sabbatical in Pacific Grove, California, one year ago today. Aspen and I spent the day at Pebble Beach, visiting the iconic Lone Cypress, often regarded as the most photographed tree in the world. The Lone Cypress stands as a powerful symbol of resilience and perseverance, thriving despite the harsh elements of its environment and enduring even through efforts to remove it from its precarious position.

Earlier today, I found myself sitting in my therapist’s office.

I think many of us share the misconception that the ideal way to live is by avoiding pain and seeking comfort above all else.

For much of my life, I held onto this belief myself.

Looking back, I realize I’ve lived a bold, adventurous life that […]

Reflecting on the future as I start year 72.

As I celebrated the completion of 71 years yesterday, I viewed the world with new eyes. It wasn’t a naive optimism but a clear realization that I have reached an advanced age. This awareness has brought about unexpected changes in me, particularly as I ponder what lies ahead.

For decades, my guiding principle has been, “You are never too old to become who you want to be.”

I’ve successfully reinvented myself every decade, embracing each new chapter of my life. But now, I find myself wondering—what will my 70s bring?

Here’s a brief overview of the various stages of my life. At age thirty-three, I became a mom and dropped out of school. I started […]

Since the start of this year, I’ve embarked on a journey of simplification.

While I’ve never been one for materialism, I realized I still had more than I needed.

Now, my kitchen is equipped only with the essentials I use regularly, and I’ve donated 70 books to the local library.

I have three pairs of walking shoes, each suited for different terrains and weather, and just enough pens for my writing needs. I’ve also shared my extra supplies with a local preschool.

I’m genuinely enjoying the simplicity of life, and I find nothing is missing.

Letting go of things I no longer need has been one of my best decisions. I don’t feel like I’ve “sacrificed” a life of “luxury.” Instead, I’ve traded material possessions […]