Eye-Opening Truths About Life – Part 13: Every Moment Serves Its Purpose

I’m dedicating this blog post to perseverance—standing tall during hard times, holding onto faith, and believing you can overcome even amid pain and heartbreak. Sometimes, we face hardships, miss opportunities, or stumble. In those moments, we do our best with the knowledge and resources available to us.

At just nine years old, my world was turned upside down when I lost my mother in a single tragic day. That moment changed my life forever and marked the beginning of a journey of resilience that carried me through the depths of pain and helped me find my way forward.

Outcomes can go either way—that’s the risk we take in life.

Sadly, we may never fully understand the reasons behind certain events, especially the painful ones.

After my mother’s death, my father left my brother and me to live with different relatives, disappearing from our lives for several years without a single visit.

At any age, abandonment delivers a profound and heartbreaking realization: someone you once loved deeply no longer values your presence in their world.

The connection you once shared feels irreparably broken, leaving you feeling unseen and unimportant to someone who once held your affection. It’s a harrowing experience, like being discarded as if you no longer matter.

Rather than asking, “Why did this happen to me?” a therapist guided me to shift my perspective and instead ask, “What can I learn from this experience?”

This is what I’ve learned from my journey.

The challenges I’ve faced—and there have been many—have consistently pushed me to discover my inner strength.

Sometimes, it was a matter of survival; other times, it was the transformative nature of adversity itself.

Hardships have a peculiar way of reshaping our inner “wiring,” altering how we see ourselves and the world.

While we can’t control everything that happens to us, we can always choose how we respond. Every season in life holds a purpose.

Every season we go through offers an opportunity for growth, even when it feels unbearable.

Let’s be honest—some seasons genuinely suck.

You might be in one of those seasons right now, thinking, “Seriously? Can anything else go wrong?”

And let’s clear something up—just because you think you deserve better or have embraced your faith doesn’t mean life will suddenly be all sunshine and roses.

That’s not how it works. Life is full of ups and downs: there are tough seasons and wonderful seasons.

The contrast between them teaches us to appreciate the good times when they come.

Think about it: if every day was sunny, would we ever understand how precious those light rays are without experiencing the storms?

My former husband, Dennis, alienated our daughter from me, turning me into the targeted parent. Over time, our daughter rejected any positive memories we once shared and cut off all contact and communication. I went from being a parent she cherished and trusted to someone she now claimed to fear.

Yes, hard times can feel relentless, and it’s easy to feel bitter or defeated. Instead of dwelling on the pain, shift your perspective. Be grateful for the present moment and recognize that things could always be different. Gratitude has the power to change everything.

Here’s the thing: how you handle your tough seasons defines the outcome.

Are you cursing your circumstances, questioning your faith, or falling into the “poor me” trap?

Or are you choosing to keep going, believing you’ll make it through?

The difference between winning and losing isn’t about avoiding struggles—it’s about how you navigate them.

Winners fall, too; however, they get back up with determination, faith, and a positive outlook.

Sometimes, life will knock you down even when you’re doing your best. You’ll break down, lose your patience, and wonder if things will ever improve.

That’s part of being human.

What matters is what you do next.

In those moments, take a step back. Breathe. Find something to be thankful for, no matter how small. And remember, your season is coming. Trust the process, hold onto hope, and know that everything works toward something greater, even when you can’t see it yet.

So, stop and take a moment when you’re having one of those days.

Breathe deeply, give thanks, and hold onto faith. Trust that you will make it through, and remember:

“Though I walk through the storm, I will trust, have faith, and believe.”

Be the change you want to see.

“Just when the caterpillar thought its life was over, it became a beautiful butterfly.”

Here are 7 key strategies I’ve discovered for transforming your perspective on adversity:

Develop Resilience – Facing and overcoming adversity strengthens our character. It molds us into the person we are and sets the foundation for who we will become. It fosters confidence in our ability to navigate challenges and equips us with the tools to handle setbacks with grace and growth.

Embrace It – Understand that adversity is an unavoidable part of life. Avoiding or resisting it will only lead to greater challenges later. Instead, recognize it and welcome it as an opportunity for growth and a valuable step toward improvement.

Foster Strength – Navigating and overcoming adversity is what builds resilience. Each challenge we face and work through fortifies our determination, boosts our confidence, and enhances our capacity to tackle future hurdles.

Grow Through Challenges – No matter how intelligent, skilled, or talented we may be, struggles, obstacles, and even heart-wrenching moments are inevitable. Are we to shy away from adversity? No. It’s within the discomfort of these moments that we gain the most significant insights, reassess our approach, and discover what it truly takes to succeed, survive, and thrive.