For adults who overcame childhood trauma

We seldom voiced our pain, keeping the truth hidden from our friends.

Our parents said they loved us, but their actions told a different story. Their words shattered our hearts and stripped away our sense of worth.

We desperately wanted their affection, confused by what we had done to deserve their anger, strikes, and desire for us not to be there.

They would hit us, scream at us, and blame us for their unhappiness. Then they’d pull us into their arms, feeding us confusing lies about how they loved us despite how “bad” we were and how it was our fault they hurt us, our fault they were angry.

As each day started, we often wished for it to […]

I was the outcast in my family.

The “black sheep.”

Often viewed as the family outcast, the black sheep is typically perceived as different or unusual.

The family usually believes the black sheep is to blame for their isolation. While it’s true that the black sheep may sometimes be seen as “odd” by general standards, my label came from my intuitive and empathetic ability to see into people’s souls.

My stepmother, however, dismissed this as a sign of mental illness. It’s uncommon for someone labeled as a black sheep to have a mental disorder.

In truth, many black sheep are kind-hearted individuals with much to offer their families and the world. Often, they are among the most talented and insightful, sometimes the most creative, or […]

Where I am today is the outcome of my choices—whether five years ago, fifteen years ago, or even this morning. We are responsible for how our lives have unfolded and play a crucial part in shaping our future. While we’re constantly making decisions, we don’t always fully grasp their long-term impact.

I know I certainly didn’t when I was younger. The first step is clearly defining the kind of life you want.

My intention was to have a calm, comfortable, happy, simple, and uncomplicated life.

Before making any decisions, it’s essential to ask yourself, “Will this action bring me closer to the life I envision or push me further away from it?”

I didn’t start consciously asking myself these questions until I was in […]

I was on sabbatical in Pacific Grove, California, one year ago today. Aspen and I spent the day at Pebble Beach, visiting the iconic Lone Cypress, often regarded as the most photographed tree in the world. The Lone Cypress stands as a powerful symbol of resilience and perseverance, thriving despite the harsh elements of its environment and enduring even through efforts to remove it from its precarious position.

Earlier today, I found myself sitting in my therapist’s office.

I think many of us share the misconception that the ideal way to live is by avoiding pain and seeking comfort above all else.

For much of my life, I held onto this belief myself.

Looking back, I realize I’ve lived a bold, adventurous life that […]