I’ve experienced a profound love that sets the standard and makes me feel truly blessed. Deep relationships are soulful connections that involve understanding a person through their existence.

Many people seem to settle, as I did for years, until I was fortunate to experience a deep, genuine connection.

Relationships are often mistakenly seen as just a commitment between two people, a dedication with a sense of belonging to one another. That limited view can foster expectations, possessiveness, and inevitable disappointment, leading to feelings of greed, ignorance, ownership, and selfish desires.

I’ve given dating many tries. Through my one authentic love experience, I’ve learned that a healthy relationship is about two people supporting each other on their spiritual paths. Whenever I share this perspective, it’s often met with a blank stare—and that’s where the possibility of connection ends for me.

I’ve met men recently who haven’t had a spiritual practice. If the opportunity arises again, this is at the top of my list. For me, a relationship is a vow to support each other’s journey with dedication and compassion, free from attachment or expectations. A healthy relationship is rooted in unconditional love, not possession. When you give love freely, you lose nothing, even when you give your whole heart.

There is no hidden agenda when both individuals are equally committed to awakening, creating, enriching, and inspiring each other’s lives. The focus shifts from what you can receive to how much you can give. This kind of union has a profound healing power that fosters deep transformation for both people. It becomes a unique opportunity to live the lessons we’ve learned.

Together, we practiced nonviolent communication and spent quiet moments simply holding hands, truly looking into each other’s eyes, and gently touching each other’s faces. Without words, we listened deeply to one another, free from distractions. We reflected on our shared experiences and expressed our feelings openly.

We engaged in Tantra, a meditation and ritual practice dating back over 6,000 years to ancient Hindu traditions. Its foundation lies in connecting with the divine by harnessing spiritual energy.

‘Tantra’ literally means ‘the weaving and expansion of energy.’

In tantric sex, sexual energy is used not only to unite deeply with a partner but also to draw closer to a higher spiritual power.

The practice includes intimate touch, synchronized breathing, and mutual consent to engage with one another.

Our connection was rooted in appreciation, authenticity, celebration, equality, mutual respect, radical honesty, and resolve. This remarkable man gave me a gift of love so profound that it transformed my entire life. Some gifts bring fleeting joy, like the bubbles in a glass of champagne.

Others—a cozy winter coat or a pair of stylish shoes—bring comfort for a season or two. More lasting gifts, like jewelry, serve as timeless symbols of friendship and love. Then, there are those rare gifts that completely change the course of our lives. They shift how we see ourselves, sparking new dreams, ambitions, and a more profound sense of happiness. That was the gift I received, though I hadn’t realized how deeply loved I truly was.

I know now how fortunate I was to experience a loving, intimate relationship that grew beyond tenderness and warmth, including active listening, connection, deep understanding, honesty, patience, vulnerability, and unwavering trust. When the relationship ended abruptly, I felt betrayed and devastated. It wasn’t until twenty years later that I finally received the truth. I will never forget the day that transformed my life.

I will write this emotional story in the days, weeks, or months ahead.

Healthy relationships are a true collaboration: two peaceful warriors spiritually supporting each other on their individual journeys and spreading positivity and light along the way.

May we all close the gap between what we settle for and the life and love we deserve.