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The Girl Left Behind – Reclaiming My Voice: Surviving Childhood Abuse, Trauma, and Silence – Series

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This piece contains personal reflections on childhood sexual abuse, trauma, and post-traumatic stress. The experiences are shared thoughtfully and without graphic detail. Please read at your own pace and take care of yourself however you need.


Reclaiming My Voice

A few hours ago, a hike with Aspen felt like exactly what I needed. Now, the sadness has quietly moved back in.

I sit down to write, knowing it won’t be easy. This writing is one of the ways I continue to reclaim my life. I am facing those who caused harm, even though they no longer walk this earth. Still, I woke this morning feeling strong. The sun shimmered, […]

The Girl Left Behind – A Daughter’s Search for the Truth – Series

The Truth That Refused to Stay Buried

A personal investigation into a mother’s death—and the unanswered questions that remain

Some truths arrive quietly, and others that fracture a life. This story is about the latter. What follows is not speculation for its own sake, nor a sensational retelling.

It is the lived experience of a daughter who was told one story for twelve years—and then discovered another.

It is an account shaped by memory, documentation, absence, and the ache of what cannot be reconciled.


The Continued Story of A Girl Left Behind

Had my mother died in an accident, I believe I would have […]

The Girl Left Behind – Writing the Unspoken: A Few Words About This Series

This writing — for now a blog, perhaps later a book — is an act of remembering.

It draws me back through vivid scenes of the past, calling for honesty, courage, and collaboration with those who shared the journey.

This story is different in two important ways.

First, the memories I revisit — particularly those surrounding my mother’s death — come from the perspective of a grieving child, and they are deeply painful to tell.

Second, some of what I reveal about sexual abuse and trafficking will challenge the reputations of individuals once considered beyond reproach. My father’s threats kept our family silent for years. He warned my aunts, my grandfather, and eventually me to say nothing, even […]

The Girl Left Behind – Haunted by a Mother’s Death – Series

On the evening of October 14, 1962, George and I were just kids on vacation, free from rules and bedtimes.

We laughed with Aunt Connie and Uncle Chuck while cousin Mike popped us bowls of popcorn, the buttery smell filling the kitchen. Later, we clanged away at the pinball machine in the garage, its flashing lights making us feel like the night could go on forever.

When we finally grew tired, we hugged and kissed Aunt Connie and Uncle Chuck goodnight, wrapped in their warmth, before curling up in our beds, safe and happy.

The house grew quiet. We drifted into sleep without a care in the world. But then, somewhere in the darkest hours, […]

The Girl Left Behind – The Last Morning I Saw My Mother Alive – Series

The last morning I saw my mother alive, she carried herself with a strange kind of quiet, as if the world was holding its breath.

It was Columbus Day, October 12, 1962—a school holiday—and Aunt Connie had stayed the night to take George and me away for the long weekend.

Nothing about the day announced itself as different, yet looking back, I can see how the silence settled like a shadow over the house.

I woke to the smell of bacon drifting through the kitchen, a scent that has never left me.

When I walked in, the four of us—Mom, Aunt Connie, George, and me—sat together around the small table, bathed in the soft […]

The Girl Left Behind – The Day I Lost My Mother: Searching for the Memory I Never Kept – Series

Many have asked me about the day I lost my mother, the day my mother passed, but the questions that echo in my heart are not for them. They’re for my family, the neighbors, and the ones who stood closest to the truth that day.

What truly happened to her soul in those final moments?

Why did her journey end so suddenly?

What unseen forces were at play?

I long to understand—not just how she died, but why, and what deeper meaning may lie beneath the silence that followed. The very questions I now carry were first spoken by her sisters, her father, and her mother in the wake […]

The Girl Left Behind – There Is No Substitute For A Mother’s Love – Series

There is no substitute for a mother’s love, and I have learned to set aside the ache of longing and the weight of what was lost to offer the kind of emotional connection I was never given.

This journey requires deep work, patience, time, and the unraveling of decades-old patterns and beliefs.

It means unlearning how I coped in the absence of love and re-learning how to be present, how to live, and trust again, even when it feels vulnerable.

There is no substitute for a mother’s love. I still can’t fully grasp the extent of its absence, but I’ve witnessed its imprint in every corner of my life.

Her loss has shaped my […]

The Girl Left Behind : A Journey of Healing from Childhood Trauma – Series

On January 9, 1986, my world shifted forever—I became a mother to a beautiful baby girl named Wendy.

In that moment, something in me awakened. Loving her gave my life new purpose. I wasn’t just living for myself anymore; I was living for her.

Still, I was moving through life in survival mode, skimming the surface of my pain.

I could see that wasn’t fair to her—I wanted to do better, to be better. Not because I consciously decided to change, but because something in me knew I had to. My body and mind were still wired for defense, shaped by the trauma of my childhood. I had learned to fight to stay afloat, and […]

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