Doré E. Frances
Why Wisdom Is Harder Than You Think
Do you ever catch yourself thinking that you are no one’s first choice –
not the favorite, not the one someone reaches for first –
just quietly present, lingering in the background?
And in that moment, you feel the pull to retreat –
not out of anger, but out of a quiet ache, a longing to be alone where it feels safer than feeling invisible.
I never set out to be emotional. I just wanted to be understood. To be seen.
Not just the words I manage to say out loud ~
but the quiet weight I carry beneath the surface, the things I tuck away where no one looks. Some days it feels like people only hear what’s comfortable for them.
They offer smiles, polite nods …
but they don’t really listen. There are moments I feel completely unseen ~
like I am standing in the middle of a storm, no one notices. And still, I smile. Still, I pretend. Even when I’m unraveling inside, clinging to what little strength I have left. It’s not about needing attention. It’s about longing for presence. For someone to ask,
“How are you […]
The hardest goodbyes are the ones never spoken, the ones that vanish in silence without explanation. No final words. No closure. Just absence. It’s the quiet that lingers ~
the hollow pause where answers should be. The mind becomes a loop of memories and what-ifs, rewinding every smile, every glance, every moment ~
searching for clues that were never left behind. But there’s nothing. Only a haunting stillness that stretches on and on, filling the night with questions that never find a voice.
And perhaps the cruelest part is realizing you may never understand. You may never know what changed or why they left. And somehow, you’ll have to live with that. That’s the grief that stays. Not the goodbye ~
but the silence […]
It’s a strange thing – how someone can be woven into your daily life for what feels like forever, and then suddenly, they’re not. Maybe it ended quietly, maybe it fell apart. Either way, the absence is real, and the chnage is jarring. You might still carry unanswered questions. You might still hurt.
And that’s okay. Heartache doesn’t follow a schedule. The memories don’t just fade on command. They linger –
in songs, in places, in ordinary moments that unexpectedly bring that person rushing back to your mind.
They were part of your story …
and no matter how it ended, they mattered. But here’s what’s also true:
not all people are meant to stay. Some enter our lives to teach us, challenge us, love […]