4 01, 2026
Young girl walking down a sunlit path

The Girl Left Behind – Reclaiming My Voice: Surviving Childhood Abuse, Trauma, and Silence

By |2026-07-30T14:27:51-06:00January 4th, 2026|Collections, The Girl Left Behind Collections, Why Wisdom Is Harder Than You Think|0 Comments

Content Warning

This piece contains personal reflections on childhood sexual abuse, trauma, and post-traumatic stress. The experiences are shared thoughtfully and without graphic detail. Please read at your own pace and take care of yourself however you need.


Reclaiming My Voice

A few hours ago, a hike with Aspen felt like exactly what I needed. Now, the sadness has quietly moved back in.

I sit down to write, knowing it won’t be easy. This writing is one of the ways I continue to reclaim my life. I am facing those who caused harm, even though they no longer walk this earth. Still, I woke this morning feeling strong. The sun shimmered, […]

2 01, 2026
Boat from June 1964

Notes From George – Resilience, and the Quiet Wisdom of Optimism

By |2026-07-30T14:23:32-06:00January 2nd, 2026|Notes From George Collections, Why Wisdom Is Harder Than You Think|0 Comments

George learned resilience early.

Between the ages of six and eighteen, he lived through sustained psychological and physical harm. There were times I truly feared for our lives.

No one intervened—our alcoholic stepmother continued unchecked, and our father did not step in.

Against that backdrop, George’s later struggles with drinking, reckless choices, and incarceration are sadly understandable. The circumstances we came from were overwhelming.

Still, George refused to surrender optimism.

As children, we endured acts of cruelty that remain difficult to put into words. Once, our stepmother sprayed oven cleaner directly into George’s eye. I locked us in the laundry room and rinsed it as best I could with a wet cloth. He […]

28 12, 2025
October 16, 1962

The Girl Left Behind – What I Was Told—and What I Found

By |2026-07-30T14:28:18-06:00December 28th, 2025|Collections, The Girl Left Behind Collections, Why Wisdom Is Harder Than You Think|0 Comments

The Truth That Refused to Stay Buried

A personal investigation into a mother’s death—and the unanswered questions that remain

Some truths arrive quietly, and others that fracture a life. This story is about the latter. What follows is not speculation for its own sake, nor a sensational retelling.

It is the lived experience of a daughter who was told one story for twelve years—and then discovered another.

It is an account shaped by memory, documentation, absence, and the ache of what cannot be reconciled.


The Continued Story of A Girl Left Behind

Had my mother died in an accident, I believe I would have […]

22 12, 2025
Randy Oakley

40 Days After Death: Grief, Rituals, and Finding Meaning Across Faiths

By |2025-12-22T11:42:35-07:00December 22nd, 2025|Spirituality, Why Wisdom Is Harder Than You Think|0 Comments

Someone I loved died on November 15, 2025, and since then, life has shifted in ways both visible and unseen.

The quiet carries a different tone now. Everything feels heavier, slower, more deliberate.

Across cultures and faith traditions, there is a long-held recognition of the significance of the days that follow a death.

The forty days, in particular, are understood as a tender span of time—one that holds both grief and healing.

It is often seen as a sacred threshold between holding on and learning how to move forward, a place where ancient wisdom meets the raw immediacy of loss.

When words fail, the forty-day observance offers something else entirely: presence.

A […]

11 11, 2025
Aspen September 2023

A Reflection on Aspen, My Beloved Dog and Soul Companion

By |2025-11-11T11:32:04-07:00November 11th, 2025|Why Wisdom Is Harder Than You Think|0 Comments

Aspen has become a gentle teacher in my life, offering daily reminders of what unconditional love truly means.

Her presence brings a sense of calm and healing that I deeply cherish.

From the moment I held her at just four weeks old, I knew she had come into my life with purpose. Aspen February 2019

I have always carried a deep sensitivity toward animals—an intuitive empathy that allows me to understand and attune to their needs.

This connection guides me to care for them, to listen to them, and to protect the natural places they depend on.

Aspen is more than a dog to me—she is […]

9 11, 2025
A child walking on a cracked ground

Whispers To The Soul – The Weight I Learned to Carry

By |2026-07-30T14:54:57-06:00November 9th, 2025|Collections, Whispers To The Soul Collections, Why Wisdom Is Harder Than You Think|0 Comments

I carry a sadness that does not belong to just one moment or reason. It has no single source. It is a sadness that slowly closes me off, separating me from myself and from others, one quiet inch at a time. It is as though I feel the world in its rawest form, every small tremor of emotion around me. This sadness has lived with me for as long as I can remember. Choosing sadness became something I learned early—less a choice than a survival strategy that once made sense.

Some children are taught, quietly and early, to absorb the sadness around them. After my mother died when I was nine, I was moved into a household […]

31 10, 2025
Woman in a cloud of colors

Don’t Believe Everything You Think: Finding Peace in Uncertainty

By |2025-10-31T12:37:22-06:00October 31st, 2025|Why Wisdom Is Harder Than You Think|0 Comments

When I was little, my family shared all sorts of stories about my parents. I don’t remember most of them, so I can’t really say if they were true.

And if people sometimes stretch the truth — and we all do — how can I ever know what really happened?

Even with all the unanswered questions, I’ve found peace in letting go of the need for certainty.

It’s not indifference; it’s acceptance.

Some parts of life aren’t meant to be explained, and I’m at ease with that truth.

“Don’t believe everything you think.”

Simple words, yet profoundly true.

Our minds borrow voices from the world — from people, headlines, fears, and […]

30 10, 2025
A road into the woods

The Girl Left Behind – Why I Chose to Tell This Story

By |2026-07-30T14:28:41-06:00October 30th, 2025|Collections, The Girl Left Behind Collections, Why Wisdom Is Harder Than You Think|0 Comments

This writing — for now a blog, perhaps later a book — is an act of remembering.

It draws me back through vivid scenes of the past, calling for honesty, courage, and collaboration with those who shared the journey.

This story is different in two important ways.

First, the memories I revisit — particularly those surrounding my mother’s death — come from the perspective of a grieving child, and they are deeply painful to tell.

Second, some of what I reveal about sexual abuse and trafficking will challenge the reputations of individuals once considered beyond reproach. My father’s threats kept our family silent for years. He warned my aunts, my grandfather, and eventually me to say nothing, even […]

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